How to Use the Law of Attraction

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The philosophy behind the Law of Attraction advocates that you attract positivity or negativity into your life through your thoughts, beliefs and actions. It is based on the concept that our energy determines what we attract in life. If you would like to improve your life, whether it be financial abundance, a loving relationship, a successful and more fulfilling career, happiness, etc., you use the Law of Attraction to project to the universe your goals and dreams.

How to use the Law of Attraction involves focusing your thoughts and energy positively to attract your dream life, visualizing your desires as though they have already happened, and expressing gratitude for what you have and achieve in life.

Follow these 3 essential steps to attract and create your desires and dream life!

1. Positive Thoughts and Mindset

Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out – John Wooden

Positive situations are created through positive thoughts and actions. Negative situations are created through negative thoughts and actions.

If you think about ‘not having enough money’, you will continue to not have enough money.
If you focus on ‘being single’ when you want to be in a relationship, you may well find yourself still living the single life.
If you wish that you ‘didn’t have an unrewarding job’, you’re focusing on this job rather than a new one that would be satisfying.
If you concentrate on ‘not wanting life to be a struggle’, the universe will pick up on the struggle rather than taking the struggle away from you.

If you think about and feel that you are lacking in whichever area of your life you want to improve, the universe will pick up on this because this is what you’re focusing on and giving your attention to.

We become what we think about – Earl Nightingale

As like attracts like, we receive what we think, believe and feel. So, an essential aspect of applying the Law of Attraction is maintaining a positive mindset, which in itself boosts good mental health, confidence, your well-being, and how you handle yourself, situations and others around you.

Consistently thinking about the good things you have currently as well as successfully achieving your goals is paramount, instead of putting the emphasis on any problems, worries or doubts. Thinking negatively sends a message to the universe that you’re expecting the worst to happen or things not to improve, which is obviously the opposite of what we want to achieve.

General negative thoughts are natural. When these occur, which will probably be many times during an average day, acknowledge them, but then think about something positive to counteract them. Such as these examples:

If you’re single and want to be in relationship, don’t concentrate on the fact that you’re alone and don’t have a partner. Think more about the positive attributes you would bring to a relationship, what you have learned from past experiences, what you want in a partner, the vacations you would go on, make room both mentally and physically (i.e. in your home to make space for partner to spend time at yours) for another person to be in your life.
If you work long hours but don’t feel that you earn enough or that your work-life balance is ideal, this could be turned around to appreciate the knowledge and skills you have gained that you can carry forward, the connections you have made, what you might want or do differently in your next role, and then working on your CV and looking for opportunities to change your career to a more fulfilling one.
If you would like to be more financially abundant, address how you see wealth and financial prosperity. Do you see having money as being greedy or that you don’t deserve it because you haven’t earned it? Being negative about money won’t bring more into your life, just as worrying that you don’t have enough. Positivity is the only way. Check out the article How to Manifest Anything Using the Law of Attraction for more.

Another way to combat negativity is to write down your worries, as this can be therapeutic and help to get them into perspective. Also, you could allocate some ‘worry time’, such as 15 minutes a day to really focus on these and nothing else. This means that they’re not regularly seeping into your consciousness and affecting you on and off during the rest of the day. If you’ve exhausted all your doubts and fears before the time is up, use the rest to come up with possible solutions and answers, or realize there's nothing you can do about it because it is out of your control.

Letting negative thoughts, fears and concerns take over will be a hard habit to break initially, but you will produce a more positive mindset by repeating this exercise on a regular basis. This, in turn, will enable you to create the dream life you desire by applying the Law of Attraction.

Undoubtedly there will be lows in life as well as highs, situations where things don’t go your way. If this happens, try to find the positive, a silver lining, or think to yourself that at least a, b or c didn’t happen.

Situations beyond your control have to be rationalized, so don’t let yourself fall into the trap of catastrophizing that your whole life is negative when this happens. In these circumstances there is nothing you could have done to change the outcome, such as experiencing an accident, losing your job, being victim of crime, suffering a bereavement or illness, etc. To heal after something like this will take time, not a magic wand, but allowing yourself the space to rebuild yourself and your mental, emotional and physical well-being can only be enhanced by a positive mindset.

As we can’t avoid adversity, the only thing we can control is our reaction to them. Deal with these situations the best way you can and reach out for help and support to get you through, whether this is through family or friends or through an organization or group. Life experiences inevitably make us stronger and wiser as we move forward in life.

To help with a positive mindset, use affirmations which need to be both positive and in the present tense. Check out my Law of Attraction Affirmations page to get started.

The mind is everything. What you think you become – Buddha

2. Visualize Your Success As Though It Has Already Happened

Visualization is daydreaming with a purpose – Bo Bennett

You’ve heard the phrase ‘Fake it until you make it,’ this can be applied to the Law of Attraction. Imagining that you have more money, a great job, you’re with that special someone, or that you’re happy and living an abundant life is projecting to the universe that you expect these things in your life.

When you visualize, see the images in vivid colour, feel that you are living this life, and believe that you deserve success and contentment.

See yourself living in your dream home going from room to room, feel running your hands over the kitchen worktops, imagine opening the doors and feeling the floor/carpet under your feet, visualize sitting out in the garden and feeling the heat of the sunshine on you, the smell of the flowers, feel the breeze through your hair, and imagine looking out long distance at the view.

See it, feel it, smell it, sense it, taste it, hear it.

Visualize a partner by imagining that you’re sitting next to them holding hands, cuddling and kissing. Imagine sitting on the beach with them, feel their presence, taste the salt in the air, feel the sand under your feet. Imagine photos of you with a partner happy with friends and family. The more vivid, the better.

Visualization techniques require more than just seeing what you want to manifest. You have to feel it, too, as though you’re actually physically, mentally and emotionally living that life now.

When you visualize, then you materialize – Denis Waitley

Another way to help with this is to create a vision board. This can be an actual board at home with images and text showing your dream home, relationship goals, holidays you want to go on, a check paid out to yourself for the amount of money you want to attract, etc. Or you could use a scrapbook/journal or Pinterest to create a visual representation of the life you want to attract and create.

Vision board ideas:

Dream house
A loving couple
Dream car
Clothes you’d like to own
A designer watch/handbag/shoes/etc.
Positive affirmations
Holiday destinations you’d like to visit
Gatherings of family and friends enjoying time together
A check showing the amount you would like in your bank account

There is no limitation to what you can include. Your only limitations are your mind. As long as it’s not going to negatively impact anyone else in the process of you achieving these goals and dreams, such as taking someone else’s money or splitting up a relationship, include everything you desire in your life.

Look at this every day as inspiration to complement your positive mindset and affirmations. All steps no matter how small will go a long way to achieving your goals. Anyone can carry out this visualization technique as another step towards manifesting a prosperous and fulfilling life.

The key to effective visualization is to create the most detailed, clear and vivid a picture to focus on as possible. The more vivid the visualization, the more likely, and quickly, you are to begin attracting the things that help you achieve what you want to get done – George St-Pierre

3. Show Gratitude And Appreciation

I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder – Gilbert K. Chesterton

This applies to what you have already as well as when you achieve what you want in life. Even if life is not ideal at this moment in time, concentrate on the good things, such as your family and friends, what you have achieved in life so far, the skills and experience you have, the good memories over the years, where you have travelled to, your positive attributes, etc.

Be grateful for the small things in life, whether it’s a coffee with a friend or colleague, cooking a nice meal, a smile from a stranger, chit-chat with someone who serves you, a beautiful view, a stunning sunset/sunrise, being out in nature, a random act of kindness, etc. It doesn’t always have to be the big things in life that determine whether you’re having a good day or if you're one step nearer to your dream life.

Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for – Zig Ziglar

Appreciating what you have now promotes positivity in your life and helps you feel better about your situation. List the things you’re grateful for first thing in the morning or last thing at night or write them down. Also, show appreciation for those in your life who give you laughter, help you in some way, who are good friends, and supportive family members. Showing gratitude for something no matter how small or insignificant is a major part of maintaining good mental health, self-worth and a positive mindset.

If you want to put the Law of Attraction into practice but don’t know where to start, try to manifest something small and easy to manage. Check out my article How to Manifest Anything Using The Law of Attraction for more information.

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough – Oprah Winfrey

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Just to note:

Using the Law of Attraction to manifest your dream life is not making three wishes and hoping that your fairy godmother will grant them to you. You do have to put your foot in the right direction, maintain a positive mindset and feel that you are worthy and deserve whatever you desire in life.

Such as, if you want a perfect partner, they’re unlikely to knock on your door, unless you like the person who delivers your mail. So sitting at home probably won’t allow this to come into your life. But if you alter your routine, change where you go out or join a group or evening class, then this will open up more opportunities.

If things don’t work out as you expect, don’t beat yourself up about it. It will be a plot twist to adapt to or you may need to address changes to achieve your goals. Also, if it doesn’t happen within a specified time frame, trust that it will all work out when it is meant to.

Try not to let yourself get exasperated or discouraged or worry about how, when, if, who, etc. as this is sending out negative vibes, which will then have the opposite effect of what you desire. This will result in it taking even longer to transpire, if it does at all. You’re sending out the message that you’re expecting the worst or it not to even happen, whereas your focus should be on positivity and success.

You can’t make demands to the universe! Patience is a virtue, as the saying goes. Some things will take time, so letting go of how and when it will happen is all part of the process.

How to Use the Law of Attraction by www.practicethelawofattraction.com

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